You of course have heard the expression “burn a bridge”. As in doing something that pretty much guarantees you will not be welcome back.
So here now is a tale of such events.
I worked at company X for well over a decade, and rose through the organization. My last job there was what they call a development type job, meaning that if you do well, they make your job permanent, and if not, well then you go back to the job you had before. In my case the boss (Let’s call her Jane) failed to get the position funded, so towards the end of the 3rd budget year, her boss told me I would be going back. Now at this point I decided that was not an option, and since other companies were hiring, I went for it. Got pretty much the same salary and benefits, and was a good opportunity. My boss (you remember, the one that forgot to get my job funded) was happy for me.
The new job was great, gained a lot more experience, worked with great people. But alas, all good things come to an end, and the company began the slow circle around the drain starting in 2010. So, I started looking around again, and interviewing, etc. I even asked about a job back at the old company; even though my rule #3 is ‘Never go back’, a rule I have broken one other time in the past. To my surprise, they hired me back, so I went.
Here is where it gets real weird. 2 weeks into my return to company X, another company I had interviewed with called, and wanted me to meet with their executives. I did, and at the end of the day, they offered me the job. With a substantial raise, nice corner office with view of the city, small staff with room to grow as they launch a new project; I was torn. Do I bail out on the people that just re-hired me, or do I take an opportunity to maybe move my career along and in the process maybe make a little more money so I can save for retirement. The kicker was when they called again and said they would also pay for most of my benefits. So besides a nice place to work, more money, I could keep more of it since they were paying for benefits (mostly anyway). I agreed, but told them I needed to give a minimum of two weeks’ notice. They agreed.
I gave notice by scheduling a meeting with my boss, who was shocked but said he understood, who could turn down such a great offer.
As the day came for me to leave, we met again to discuss things, and I assured him I understood the pressure on him for re-hiring me and then I leave, but I seriously had no idea the offer was coming. I had not heard from them in months, and that is not an exaggeration. He told me he did catch some crap from the big shots, but for me not to worry about it.
So now I am at my new job, and everything is pretty much great. One of my pals at Company X and I are chatting on the phone, and she lets out that “Jane” has been telling everyone at Company X that she tried to warn people re-hiring me was a mistake, that I would be leaving, “just like she did me”…ok, SO that’s not exactly how that went down, so what’s up with the assertion I bailed out? She never lifted a finger to help me out, and now she is spreading this garbage?
So today, I contacted my pal, and told her hearing that bit of news actually didn’t shock me; it reaffirmed my low opinion of Jane as a manager. She laughed and told me that that was everyone was saying, her petty behavior was only reaffirming her own shortcomings.