I read someone leses blog, and it just struck me that the comments by others seemed to dwell on the child(18) and her missing her always working mom and deglected to account for the parent, mom, and how she may feel. Sure, she may not care, but I doubt it. If mom is a single parent, she has a tough job already(mom), and her paying job is probably barely cutting it-
Having been a working mom, I guess I am really sensitive to critical comments about women working instead of rearing their children. Its a tough thing, stay home and barely get by or work and have hardly any family time. I suspect most opt to eat and have health insurance and dental insurance, and "extra money" so they can afford things, without going on the public dole. Maybe that just my work ethic, support yourself, dont expect others to do it for you.
I worked as a shift supervisor, preparing departures, and scheduling fueltrucks, services, food, and ensuring freight and luggage were all transferred. It sucked. It paid good, but I was constantly being hassled by the men I worked with "why aint you home with your kid?" I did that for about 20 months, and finally gave up, and went into some other work, which turned out to have been a good decision. I still had to work shifts, and I will never get back the time i missed with our daughter.
i wanted to stay home and not work, but with wages being what they were, and the inflation at the time, i started down the career path.
Our daughter at first enjoyed the freedom from me constant nagging at her to do her homework, chores, etc, but eventually that waned, as did our sense of family. Did it hurt me emotionally? Hell yeah. Did I like it? NO. Trust me, i know what its like to have a child say "why are you always at work? Don't you want to be with me?" No amount of discusssion will satisfy that childs question, yet any low wage earning adult with kids can understand the rationale- food, housing, health insurance, dental insurance.
OK, I'm off my soapbox...thanks
cdm
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