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Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Letting the whole world know how you feel...its therapy?

From SoloMother:

See, i knew it was a good thing to do..Apparently, we do ourselves a world of good when we write about the things that are bugging us. Writing is good therapy. I stumbled across an old article on CNN, about writing for therapy. Dr. Pennebaker’s studies have proven that writing is good for what ails you. Or to quote Shrek, ‘Better out than in, I always say’:

Pennebaker’s interest in the potential of writing therapy was sparked by conversations with government polygraph operators. A criminal’s heart rate and breathing, he learned, is much slower immediately after a confession than before. Since then, he’s spent much of his career proving that we can all feel better after confronting the past through writing.One of his studies, published in the “Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology” in April 1988, found that college students had more active T-lymphocyte cells, an indication of immune system stimulation, six weeks after writing about stressful events. Other studies have found that people tend to take fewer trips to the doctor, function better in day-to-day tasks, and score higher on tests of psychological well being after such writing exercises, he says.

I knew it.

Spilling your guts in a blog has always made me feel better about things, even when it made other maybe uncomfortable. I have written about pretty much my whole life in this blog, which has migrated from one place to another...all several hundred entries.

I wrote about going to Germany out of college, meeting someone, coming back to the US, finding the love of my life cheating on me, thinking i would never recover and then meeting honey.

I have written about things in my job, etc...which is pretty boring most of the time. What I have not written about are my online friends...not the ones here, or Yahoo or Imeem, or Google, or AOL or even way back on Prodigy.  Especially not the ones who have hurt my feelings, because really, friends don't do that. Not to say I have not screwed up every once and awhile, and really made someone go off...I have. But really, whats the point of getting all worked into a lather over some misunderstanding with a person i have never met,  and  likely never will.

After a friend dumps you and you apologize, and they still are not willing to talk, well my real life friends say that's just SOS. (Stuck on Stupid) - The End.

So my job sucks, and i have a reprieve from the daily grind since, well, most of my work is in limbo. I manage projects, installing technology products...actually reviewing business need, recommending solutions, negotiating w vendors, obtaining the financing, then implementing the solution, etc, etc. Only thing is, with the economy so bad, all my projects came to a stop as business fell off....and they are waiting until something says its going to be OK again. Problem is in california, who knows. High unemployment, a state that is probably going to be in a budget crisis (again) in a few months...well, I have been looking for maybe a place to go work, in or out of California...Honey could care, only works part time now anyway. We would have to sell or rent the house, which means likely renting it out, since the value is half what it was a couple of years ago.

Try to find something to smile about everyday, I do

 

3 comments:

  1. Sometimes I do smile therapy. They say that if you force yourself to smile for 20 minutes you'll feel better. Just putting those muscles in place sends a message to the brain. :-)

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  2. Very good post and advise. Thanks

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  3. I've always written...so does that mean I'm supposed to feel good all the time! (It must work!)

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